Late November 2025 I escaped to Langkawi for my birthday — perfect timing since my boss was pushing me to take leave 😒

February 2026 I flew to Phuket a short unpleasant time but not bad for the start.

April I visited Yogyakarta, Indonesia for a fun filling to both Borobudor and Prambanan Temple with my 00:00 tattoos. Ended with a relaxing massage

May: Mumbai + Chennai— Vada pav, bhel puri, Coffee, dosa, idli sambar… I started the year with the heavy hitters 🔥Updated hunt.

June: Rested and relaxing while WFH.

July: Ipoh – Food, Caves, Outdoor adventure
August: Brickfields, Malaysia. Well I live to Eat!!

September: Prolly head back to Georgetown, Penang as I miss the 🍺 and might plan for some good food.

October: Udaipur + Jaipur, India: Most anticipated and exciting for me to explore the glorious spots.

November: Chiang Mai, nature, culture and food. New spot for me to relax over my birthday weekend.

December: Undisclosed location;

How exciting and fun can it get when I have not ever had Vadapav 😂. I know it sounds 🤣 yet weird right? Well I finally made it to Mumbai to experience and we eat as much 😄.

Myself at the window seat.

Vada Pav! Finally MK is having a potato bun which wasn’t enough 😆

The most anticipated Vada Pav became one of MK’s favorite. As it’s something not served in Malaysia.

So finally my driver UJ came to fetch me to the Hotel Metro Palace Bandra

Dear Readers and viewers. Do kindly take not that I will be changing my blog name to a new one.

EatNTravel.site is the new domain but hang in there as I’m still working on a few things before I publish and kickstart my adventure and trips.

Have a good evening.

Excited and happy while looking forward to my SEA Spice Tour.

Next Trip in line is Rajasthan. Before I head to Thailand for my next adventure in December..

Wait why do I see Rajhastan text in yellow?

While I complete my Reiki2. I shall get calendly AI to plan my schedule as I have a few clients waiting.

Can’t wait to having the snacks and foods as I just recovering from the 😷.

Stay tuned.

ADHD, Freedom, and a Life AI Can’t Replicate in Singapore

I’m 38 soon in Singapore. I don’t have the 10-year marriage or the “stable” 9-5 my parents pictured.
I do want a roof in this expensive city. But not if it means settling for a life I don’t want just to get there faster.

I have a blog, a backpack, and a business in the works helping ADHD adults stop settling out of fear.

I used to think “settling down” was the goal. Now I know “waking up” is.
And no AI can do that for me.

The Timeline That Felt Like Failure

In Singapore, “settle down” comes with a timeline: BTO, marriage, promotion by 35.
For ADHD adults with delays + trauma, that timeline feels like proof you messed up.

My brain learned: I'm behind. Take anything.
That’s how I almost said yes to the wrong jobs and the wrong relationships out of fear.
Urgency felt like safety. But safety without truth is just a prettier cage.

What I Chose Instead

So I ditched the 💡.
I chose travel. Real conversations. Building something of my own to help other ADHD adults.

Singapore taught me efficiency. ADHD taught me I need novelty. Life Path 5s need freedom.
AI can write a resume. It can generate 10 career plans in 3 seconds.
But it can’t sit with you at 38 and say: you're not late, you're becoming.
It can’t feel the fear and choose freedom anyway.

3 Questions I Ask Before I Say Yes

I use these every time the “settle down” pressure gets loud:

Am I choosing this or running from fear?

Ans: I try to embrace it wholeheartedly.

Will future-me thank me?

Ans: Definitely.

Does this give me more freedom or less?

Ans: More. If 2 out of 3 are a no, it’s settling.

You Still Have Time

I’m still building the roof. Just not on someone else’s timeline.

I write more about ADHD, career resets, and not settling on my blog.
If this resonated, email me at alfiemanojkumar@gmail.com and tell me: what’s one thing you almost settled for?
Let’s stop settling. Let’s wake up.

Bio: [MK] is a writer and ADHD advocate based in Singapore. He is currently completing his ADHD coach certification and helps adults stop settling out of fear and start choosing freedom. Connect at alfiemanojkumar@gmail.com

Udaipur was the main course. Jaipur is the side dish. And MK is mesmerized by its forts, palaces, and natural charm.

From the pink walls of the Pink City to the breeze at Nahargarh Fort, every corner tells a story.

The mix of royal history and open landscapes makes Jaipur feel both grand and peaceful at the same time.

Adventure continues… and MK is just getting started.

Before heading to a place, I call it home.`

Temples, Cafes, Food, and Malls Without the Rush — SEA Spice Tour With MK.

After 6 years of chaos, I need peace. Chiang Mai in November will give me exactly that.

Day 1: Old City Reset + Night Bazaar

Vibe: Land softly. No pressure.
Morning: Check-in, then walk the Old City moat. Tha Phae Gate is perfect for your “I made it” first post.
Lunch: Khao Soi Khun Yai ∼60 THB. This is Chiang Mai in a bowl.
Afternoon: Wat Phra Singh + Wat Chedi Luang. Go around 4pm for golden light. Entry 20-50 THB.
Evening: Chiang Mai Night Bazaar + Anusarn Market. Street food ∼100-150 THB. Try sai ua and mango sticky rice.
Mall Stop: Central Chiang Mai Airport Plaza for SIM cards and essentials.
Blog Tip: Film a “first 24 hours” reel. People connect to arrival energy.

Day 2: Doi Suthep + Nimman Cafe Hop

Vibe: Views + aesthetic
Morning: Grab to Wat Phra That Doi Suthep ∼50 THB entry. The view over the city hits different.
Afternoon: Nimmanhaemin. This is where Chiang Mai’s creative crowd lives.
Mall: One Nimman for boutique shops.
Cafes: Graph Cafe, Yellow Lane. Budget 150-250 THB for coffee + cake and 2 hours of laptop time.
Evening: Maya Mall. Food court ∼80-120 THB. Go to the rooftop for sunset.
Blog Tip: “Cafe hopping in Nimman” carousel = saves + shares. Tag every cafe.

Day 3: Nature Day – Pick Your Pace

Vibe: Reset in nature
Option A – Tour: Doi Inthanon National Park day trip ∼1200-1500 THB. Waterfalls, highest point in Thailand, king pagodas.
Option B – Budget: Bhubing Palace + Huay Kaew Waterfall. Grab ∼400 THB round trip. Slower, quieter.
Evening: If it’s Saturday → Wua Lai Walking Street. If not → Chang Phuak Gate street food ∼100 THB.
Blog Tip: Contrast content. City temples vs. mountain mist does so well.

Day 4: Cook + Shop + Walk

Vibe: Hands-on + local
Morning: Half-day Thai cooking class ∼1000-1200 THB. You cook, you eat, you film. Most include a market tour.
Afternoon: Central Festival Chiang Mai. Huge, aircon, cheap eats ∼120 THB. Perfect for a “mall haul” or rest break.
Evening: Saturday Wua Lai Walking Street 5-10pm. Crafts, food ∼150 THB, live music. If your Day 4 isn’t Sat, do Sunday Walking Street at Tha Phae Gate.
Blog Tip: POV cooking video + walking street b-roll = your most watched content.

Day 5: Slow Morning + Last Shots

Vibe: Don’t rush the goodbye
Morning: Brunch at The Larder or Good Morning Chiang Mai ∼200-300 THB. Journal. Breathe.
Late Morning: Souvenirs at JJ Market or Central Chiang Mai Airport Plaza.
Lunch: Huen Phen for Northern Thai set ∼150 THB.
Afternoon: Wat Umong – tunnel temple in the forest. Quiet. Perfect final photo.
Blog Tip: End with a “what Chiang Mai taught me” post. Solo travel + healing stories perform best.

Budget Breakdown for Solo Travelers

• Food/day: 300-500 THB
• Transport: 200-400 THB/day with Grab
• Activities: ∼2500 THB total for cooking class + 1 tour
• 5-Day Total excl. hotel/flights: ∼8,000-10,000 THB

3 Things I Wish I Knew Before Going

1. November is cool season + possibly Yi Peng lantern festival. Book early.
2. Nimman cafes have the best wifi for editing. Starbucks Reserve One Nimman is my office.
3. You don’t need to rush. Chiang Mai rewards slow. 5 days is the sweet spot.

Chiang Mai didn’t just give me content. It gave me space to choose myself again.

“Darr Ke Aagay Jeet Hai. That’s what this trip is about. Victory is beyond fear. I’m super excited for this trip as it’s not just a trip but it’s a lifetime experience which I have yet to immerse myself by the Pichola lake.

Due to personal reasons I’m not sharing my trip dates. Just setting healthy boundaries so I can enjoy this in peace.

Cancelled both Banjara Heritage and Perfectstayz Premium just for a way cheaper + the lake views and rooftop are my main goal to snap by my DSLR camera 😍📸😍.

2 months to go– It’s exciting I know.. Come and experience Rajasthan with MK. Witness the living truth of a lifetime. 😊

Last night I had subway Bbq chicken salad. With Doritos crushed cheese chips. I know you must be 😯.

Had a good one with white chip cookie and lots of water. As I woke up realizing it’s Monday. I decided to prepare myself reset drink to recover from the Pekat mutton Curry from Lavanya and I can’t get over the 4 Chapati in Pudu 😂.

Reset Drink – How to Make

1. Boil water and pour into a cup

2. Add to cup first: apple cider vinegar + cinnamon + turmeric + black pepper

Use less turmeric and ACV if your stomach is sensitive

3. Squeeze half a lemon in after the hot water.

4. If too tangy: Add more water to dilute it tip: Add honey to help with digestion and make it more comforting.

Stir and drink warm.

Yesterday was Day 2.0 and 3.0.

Today is the full and final closure.

Not gonna load myself with the heavy meals. Just got samosa and the ginger tea to relax and prepare for the day.

Let’s just say MK will return for more in Kualar Lumpur.

KL Adventure Final Score: 2:2

Day 4.0: Simple clean meal before the 20hr flight. Closure vibes only.

2.0 was in the morning at Jit Capati and it loaded the capacity up til I had to take chia seeds in order to reset while digest the food.

Since it’s a Cheat Code day and the only chance I took to come over KL for weekend feast.

The rice was slightly much but it will last me the day. Pekat mutton curry 😋 rice veg and tofu was just perfect for me.

After the heavy yet good mutton curry rice with green vegetables I took a slow walk and it wasn’t as far as I thought.

The Reset Code

Cheat Code: Reset activated.RM1 Masala Tea from TEA TIME.Warm, light, exactly what the gut needed.

I even got a Cornetto Royale because.. why not. It’s Day 3.0.

Endgame:

Score 2:1. Cravings won this round. But we balanced it.Enjoy. Balance. Reset. No guilt.

Read my review of Lavanya Food Corner